I have this theory that most work-related stress is simply people-related stress. People can be downright stressful. Melodramatic.

So, what can be done to turn around the stressful situations, those work-related mini soap operas?

Laugh. Look for people who know how to laugh. Make it a deliberate goal to sit at the "most fun" table at any seminar or event. Life is short.

Focus on fun. Does five hours feel like five minutes on certain tasks? Do you look up and say, "Where did the time go?"

Say "no." Everyone has to do things they don't enjoy. That's why it's called work and that's why we get paid. But minimize those tasks and set boundaries around them.

Confide. Vent, but only with friends who are trustworthy and not co-workers. Don't poison someone else's well.

Instead, look for mature folks who tend to end a debriefing with this kind of message: "I hear what you are saying, but I am guessing you just needed to vent. You guys are probably a perfect team, bringing a balance to each other."

Repeat the positive. Never repeat anything that is negative.

Affirm. Affirmation tends to be contagious and everyone needs a pat on the back now and then.

Delegate, initiate, and appreciate. If you are a creative ding-bat, sit next to the most organized, thorough person at the meeting.

Or if you're the intense, alpha type, sit next to the person who will be the most laid back. You'll probably get on each other's last nerve, but I guarantee that if you let the person know you ap- preciate the way they are wired, soon you'll have a cordial, mutually productive relationship.

Meet new people. New people are one way to enrich your life and stimulate your brain. Listening to other perspectives is a great way to learn something new.

Learn new things. Always take the opportunity to get training in areas you enjoy.

Unfamiliar territory can be intimidating, but once you conquer a new skill, you'll feel terrific and oh-so-smart.

Reward others. Remember to thank the people in your life, at work and at home, who make your day better. Do not withhold honor from whom it is due.

Finally, reward yourself. Remember to take stock in what you value and commit to that. Reward yourself by making time for the people you love.

Cathy Primer Krafve lives and writes with a Texas twang. E-mail her at cathykrafve@gmail.com.